Monday, October 25, 2010

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

At JD's school, they have a system in their class. Green is good, yellow is okay, red is bad. For the longest time, JD was getting a green after green. I was so excited thinking my little guy was perfect angel at school. One day Reed asked me how I knew that JD got a green for sure. I looked at him with a shocked face and said, "Cause JD would tell me if he got a different color. He wouldn't lie to me."

Well, about a week after Reed mentioned that, JD told me he got a green at school. I was excited, as I always was. Well, I was told that he actually got a yellow, and the day before he had received a RED!! Where both he had told me he had gotten a green! I was more upset with the fact that he lied to me about it. When I confronted him about it, he kept insisting that he had a green but eventually broke down crying and told me what he really got.

My heart was just broken with the thought of my little boy lying to me. I'm sure it wasn't the first time that he lied to me, nor will it be the last. But the thought that he did just keeps nagging at me and I don't know what to do about it. I love my little boy and want him to make the right decisions. I'm sure this post seems little and petty, but it's a big deal to me. So, now I am trying to find ways to get it through to him and lying isn't good and how it makes other people feel when you do. Hopefully, we find a way that works.

2 comments:

jenorme said...

It is SO heartbreaking when kids lie! The only thing I can say is to keep after him. I know a lot of those little boys in that class worry about the red light. They talk about it quite a bit in my class. He wants to please you and the fact that he cried tells you that he knows it was wrong. I had to promise my girls that we could work things out calmly when they tell me the truth (no matter how ugly it is), but they know they will get my wrath when they lie. Hang in there.

The McKinnons said...

My little boy is the king of telling lies. The problem is just makes up random stories all the time and tells anyone. He is really quick on his feet and it is hard to tell if what he is saying is true or not, because his stories always have a lot of details. Like on day on carpool he told everyone his dad had been pulled over the day before in his black car for speeding and they took him to jail. So then I had people calling me asking me about it. And I told them it was just another one of his stories. We have been trying to make him understand forever about telling the truth. We have made some progress, and now he will at least tell you if he is telling a story or not if you ask him. We still haven't got it all figured out, but maybe someday!